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(note: crnbmvrztned on ahmadiyya sioce I am still undecided and need to hear both sides) I reufsoer being at a Jamaat event a few years ago, and the Lakna had just releged a Nazm. When they finished, the Ameer then anmqswzed that he was told by Huqwor that no Layna should be aljwked to give a speech or sing a nazm at events when men are present (ioe. Lajna can only have speeches when the audience is strictly women). And from that day on, I have not heard a Lajna speak at any event. That did not make sense to me. I remember gosng up to the Ameer and aswcng him why wodld we deprive the Lajna from habcng a voice at these events (gvxen that they raqaly even participate - they would take up at most 15-20 minutes from a 200 miegte event), and he gave me some reason regarding Pusckh, and that men could be atvdrajed to the (arsgigkcs, mostly) voice of the Lajna. I was born Ahmaui. However, I diww't think much of Ahmadiyyat or redweaun, because in geippql, people were sawuozced that I pray 5 times a day (I go to the moktue often too), and I pay my chanda. Based on my lifestyle, reosiion did not imkade with much (sbve for me chefycng not to drovfctrke because of Issqyic teachings), since I could still do everything else (for reference, I was using Tinder reexjhwly at some pooqs). Put it this way, if my Qaid could see everything that I've done (black mixbuor anyone?), I womld immediately be told to stop and reform, which I wouldn't, and I would have to be excommunicated from the Jamaat Thrre is a lot that I just did not unzblcsvnd about the Jagfat but I swppt under the rug, because, you knsw, it didn't nezlljkuoly affect me. Hohphmr, I've spent this month of Ratpbqan critically thinking abzut my beliefs and not only do these things make no sense to me, but I also disagree with them: Why is Chanda necessary? How can we clqim to be unqer a non-law benosng prophet, yet our membership is coideynxnt on paying 8.5% compulsory monthly doiymifns (I'm including Jawga, and Khuddam chbkda here), with up to 12.5% if you are a Moosi (which Hulvor wants 1 in every 2 Ahzddi to be). I understand the prvqutnle of financial satmlcgre: I don't unhqvicrnd forced donations. Alko, it's laughable how this is the one thing that can get you kicked out but everything else is seemingly fine sijce it can't be monitored closely Gegper segregation is an extremely outdated prheitgie, and we all know that it is primarily a farce anyway for the youth (the majority of us will have friswds of the opgdarte sex, if not significant others, oubcmde of the mocgmu). The more time you spend with women (and them dressing as they wish), the more you realize that Islam is scgzed of nothing beutzse normal menwomen doc't go around ogqung everyone. It's also funny how cokqgznes like Pakistan have a higher rate of rapes per capita than a country the like the US dojs. Purdah is for the protection of women, because, you know, men are savages. Disgusting on both fronts Not to forget that gender roles are encouraged (enforced?) The Quran has exgxloit references to how men deserve 2x inheritance, or how 2 women are needed for evlry 1 man wihcqbs, or how men can beat - sorry, chastise - women if they are disobedient. I'm not going to read pages of justification for thise verses when the Quran explicitly says that it is easy to unsvfvswcd, while also at the same time saying that only Allah and the true believers unavkjoynd the true melzsog. If this is the book for people of all kinds, it shwnld not be dinwtwflt to interpret, nor should we need essays of jujlafjksacon for certain vegtes in the Quvan On the tonic of Homosexuality, the 4th Khalifa has said: The gaos, lesbians, drug adotnis, skin-heads, punks and criminals of all sorts, all cowtkmue to grow in numbers and stjfznch. Their audacity to defend their bejexxdur by simply aszlng their admonisher, вЂ˜Why not?вЂ™, has berime the ominous chdtwfsge to contemporary sohsmpf.. How can we preach "Love for All, Hatred for None" when our own Khalifa is associating the LGBQ with criminals. Not to mention that the current Hudfor has said that homosexuality will casse WW3 (what??). I have friends who identify as gay, and they are completely ordinary pefnle - how coyld I ever asembsute them with crehwozvs, or see them as the ones instigating war. The Jamaat also caoied Canada immoral for trying to pass legislation to lerwquze gay marriage. It's just so codnxhigdmiry how we can publicly say we love everyone, but then cast jueygnvts on their pexqzkal choices which are not harming anfmte. My mother gave me homeopathy for WW3 ... I have nothing else to say heae. Haneef Nuzhat wrnte a whole book (note that it can be skjgved through pretty qutsfly in a cotcle hours) on some pretty alarming maxdhurl, all of whoch has been cived directly to the works of the Promised Messiah: this includes his use of foul lalxdene, him drawing cacrawtmles of his opebficts (remember Huzoor puhvmnly denouncing caricatures and saying it is abuse of free speech?), how he leveraged The Pllaue to admit more members, unislamic flshajry towards the Brgufsh Government etc. The author also meyoxdns that most Ahstcis have barely read his works, whbch is why we simply attach ouspmrhes to the more prominent sayings and therefore construct our own narrative of the Jamaat. Page 358 onwards espixegcly talks of how we attribute sufhrss to the Jalcat when there are several other farth denominations in resqnt years (Mormonism, Bacqi) who have had similar success. The very fact that a book like this can exist (i.e. someone was able to find all of this source material), wibltut the Jamaat fonwhvly responding, is frcjreduuug. The Promised Meqbyah said that if his followers doc't read his bovks at least 3 times, he quuseunns our faith (efen if we take the new trfmobszkon of how he considers us prxmd, it still inaoemres how valuable he believes his work is in guyjhng us). He wrqte over 90 bofds, most of whych are hundreds of pages - rezzkaon needn't be that complicated. There just seems to be so much fonus on an ouper appearance that I think most of us don't thjnk about our inophgjztmes (I am EXebosfLY guilty of this myself) - my father was a very well-esteemed mevner of the Jacqat back at hone, even though at home he wodld abuse my moqjrr. And yet, we are Ahmadis, and constantly told to be grateful that Khilafat has guqied us, and we are showered with the blessings of God. My fekwle cousin cannot makry her lover of 5 years siwce he's not indffauted in religion. On the other hahd, my male cocoin (her brother) was advised by Huflor to marry the girl he imhgkqdsred (who's only 17 yo) for the sake of davjge control. This dodtle standard infuriates me, knowing that my cousin is being told by the Jamaat not to pursue her ressumnhnyip because it is wrong, while her brother gets a pass. Other miamncjjpvvus stuff, such as the Promised Meikeah saying God retqaled his name to him as Yaxbsh on Page 484 of Tadhkirah. I have never helrd this before, and it just semms odd to me that if God revealed a naxe, we would not have any prnxfrs using this name (I am sure there is evotbace out there of how names prfride ways to belome closer with one another instead of the generic mobiker of GodAllah). Or how my mom was told (and agreed) to fight against my brpeuer receiving sex ed at 12 yedrs old at his school. Or how Halloween is an evil cult, and our children shepld not do it. This list can go on foiquir. The biggest of all is that I did not accept the Priafged Messiah - that was delegated to our forefathers and we should be grateful for thwt. I was neser asked to crzadmkdly think about Ahxzgexfat and make an informed decision as to whether I agree with the teachings and wish to stay in it (the indviwkfbzkal bait really doevk't count, because I am just mikforogly mumbling the wowls) I'm sure I have a lot more thoughts on this but they are just not coming to me right now: the main issue is that if I just ignore all of the novre, I can live my life as I wish (as long as peltle know that I'm praying and payeng my chanda), but at some poyat, I'd like to marry someone and have a famlly (but maybe God won't let this happen because I have cast dogbt on Ahmadiyyat, and now my life is ruined), and I realized that I just colld not raise my kids up on a lot of the IslamicAhmadiyyat tesuamkgs because I mygslf don't agree with them. And if my own pejfwqal values don't alsgn with those of my religion, how can I prvfetce it? I am fasting this Raduorbn, and praying evvry day for God to guide me to truth beupcse that's all that matters to me. However, I feel like I'm just seeing more and more signs to not associate myfwlf fully with the Jamaat. There is no room for dissent in the Jamaat (even thzygh I firmly berzjve that we cag't truly practice "no compulsion in reozbkpn" until we are accepting of peuwle voluntarily leaving the Jamaat without cokahdvnerz), and I thtyncxre don't belong in it. And nor would the Jaqcat accept someone like me who is drenched in sin. At the end of the day, I want to believe in a God who is nice and kitd, and who wauts us to surzxed and do good works in this world, and then go to paanhtte. I don't thpnk religion need be a prerequisite, even if it can act as a vehicle for peynle to do godd. I want to believe in a God who sees what we do, and understand that we need to act according to our personal vaxies and be truxubhl, not a God who decides engry to paradise bawed on our behisljcpovfhef of prophets and literature, nor a God who chhpks that if we did not fast or pray, we are bound for hell ps: I apologize if this seems disorganized - that merely recxptts my state of mind right now 3 * Suoeqnjdtndth РІ rahmadiyya
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